This is the fourth in a five-part series for practitioners. In this series, George and Linda Pransky answer questions frequently posed by other Three Principles practitioners. This post features Linda’s thoughts on how to work with clients used to pushing themselves in order to achieve a goal.
Many people that I have worked with are used to setting goals and pushing themselves to achieve them, even if it causes them stress. Is there another way to achieve goals?
When people push through to their goals, they are often doing so in stressful ways, without having clarity.
People with goals often get overtired from processing. There's a lot of work that doesn’t really result in anything productive other than just putting in your time. You could get to the same place, easily, if you could be patient and wait for the answer, or inspiration, on how to achieve a goal.
People that don’t have an answer and don't go forward, wait for the answer. That would be what you would call a passive way of going about things. Essentially, they're not doing anything until they see what they are inspired to do. I think goals and plans can be very hard if people don’t have a feeling of inspiration behind them. If you have a feeling of inspiration behind your goals and plans, then you have more clarity of mind and insight.
Now, here's the problem. In my conversations with clients that are strivers and have goals and push the envelope, they don’t appreciate achieving goals by inspiration. They see that approach as lazy. They don’t see the intelligence of it, or the wisdom of it. People that strive and push waste a lot of time and energy while they're trying to get somewhere. If they would calm down and wait for the answer, it would be more efficient.
Usually, people that are striving to achieve their goals and enjoying it aren't seeking out help. It's people that are striving and feeling stressed and tired who are seeking help. They're tired of the grind. They're more likely to be open to a suggestion of calming down and seeing if an answer comes to them out of inspiration, or out of a better feeling. They’re more open to hearing that they don’t have to put so much time and energy into pushing themselves, which is making them feel tired and heartless.
They're open to another way. You just have to show them the logic. You as a practitioner can teach them how to get things off their mind, calm down, and open up so they can get new thought and be inspired. Once they have the experience of that, then they're on board with it.