Bad Experiences & How to Heal from Them

The Gentle Path to Healing

We often believe that in order to heal from painful experiences, we need to analyze them, talk through them, or “get to the root.” But in this clip from a past Professional Training Retreat, Linda Pransky offers a different perspective—one grounded in the nature of how our minds actually work.

Rather than confronting the past head-on, Linda explains that true healing comes when we stop resisting our experience and allow the mind’s natural intelligence to do what it’s built to do—move on. The human mind is a self-righting system. It’s designed to bring clarity and relief without effort or intervention.

Letting the System Work for You

According to Linda, the real shift happens when we stop trying to force ourselves to feel better and begin to trust the resilience already built into us. Bad experiences can pass through us like a storm, leaving the sky clear again—if we don’t keep pulling them back into view with our thinking.

Understanding the difference between reliving and reflecting is key. When we innocently dwell on a painful memory, we reignite the emotional charge. But when we allow space and quiet, perspective arrives naturally. We see more. We feel lighter. Without trying to “process” anything, healing begins.

A Fresh Look at the Past

One of the most freeing messages from this conversation is that we don’t have to make peace with the past to move forward—we simply need to stop carrying it with us. As Linda puts it, when we live with less resistance, insight and peace return on their own.

If you've struggled with past pain, this clip is a reminder that you’re not broken—and that your mind knows how to help you heal. It’s a hopeful, compassionate take on recovery that invites you to do less, not more.